9 Painful Signs That He’s Looking To Move On
When you’ve been with somebody for a while and created so many memories together, it can be an awful feeling when you realize they might not love you anymore. Is your relationship on the outs? Here are 9 painful signs that he’s ready to break things off.
When the relationship began, he would engage in conversation practically nonstop. He was interested in every aspect of your life; your goals and aspirations; your hobbies and passions. But now he hardly has anything to say and doesn’t seem to pay attention when you try to engage him.
When the two of you first fell in love, he was the one texting you first. Or he would call you up and ask if you wanted to get dinner or catch a movie. These days? Text messages are few and far between, and he never seems to want to spend time with you.
Back in the day if you got a new haircut or wore a dress he had never seen before, he would go out of his way to pay you compliments. If it was a chilly evening, he’d offer you his jacket. But these sweet things he’d say or do appear to be in the past.
In the past, even with his busy schedule, he never had any problems fitting you into it. But all of a sudden it is like he is purposely avoiding you. He’s out at the bars with his friends and not inviting you to come along. He cancels out on dates even when you planned them well in advance. Although he says, “Maybe we can hangout this weekend” he stops following through.
He says he’s too tired to see you after work. He’s not interested in seeing the movie. He doesn’t want to go on the weekend getaway because suddenly the plane tickets and hotel are too expensive (even though this was never a concern of his in the past).
Remember when he talked about getting an apartment together? Or he’d ask you questions like, “If I moved away to another city, would you follow me there?” These days he doesn’t talk about any of that. Even worse, he might even be making important decisions about his life that would seemingly impact both of you — such as career changes — without asking for your input.
This goes along with the previous sign. You can’t seem to get any clear answers from him about anything anymore. He never talks about his daily life anymore. He would tell you about what his parents and siblings were up to, and now he never makes any references to his family. It is like he is deliberately creating distance between you.
He had always been a fairly calm, pragmatic person. But now all of a sudden he snaps at you all the time and often for the silliest of reasons. He also seems to try to find flaws in the most minor of things. He is purposely making himself unlikeable in order to sabotage the relationship.
He stops making eye contact. He folds his arms. He doesn’t hold your hand anymore. When you sit down for a meal, he’s constantly checking his phone whereas this wasn’t something he was ever prone to doing in the past. Even his hugs and kisses seem to be devoid of any feeling. These are all signs that something is no longer right in the relationship.
When you start to realize the relationship is truly coming to an end, there is no point in being in denial. The guy that you loved and were hoping to spend the rest of your life with is no longer there. Pleading with him, attempting to win him over a second time, or doing something cruel so that he feels the pain that you are feeling is not productive. Instead, you must acknowledge that it is over and find healthy ways to cope. This could mean spending more time with your friends and family, or even getting back in touch with old friends that you hadn’t seen for a while. You will gradually get over the hurt and come to realize that you deserve to be with someone who loves you as much as you love him.