20 Words And Phrases You Should Avoid Saying To Your Partner At All Costs (3 of 5)

I wish I never got into a relationship with you

Uttering such phrases, or things like ‘I wish I [fill in the blank]’ can cause irreparable damage to your relationship, especially if it’s already on the brink of being broken. Also, bringing up your ex-lover is only going to make things worse for you and the relationship, so avoid bringing that up in an argument. According to Hope, it only makes your partner believe that what you’re saying is completely true, even if you just blurted that out in anger and didn’t mean it at all!

Please don’t take this the wrong way, but…

According to marriage counselor Julienne Derichs, total and complete honesty in a relationship isn’t necessarily a good thing. A lot of people confuse the comfort and intimacy of a relationship with complete honesty, which often causes harm to the relationship, as it opens the floodgates open. Derichs reveals that a lot of the time people defend their behavior by saying that they were just trying to be open and completely honest. However, what they forget is being honest doesn’t have to hurt your partner. This is precisely why you should consider how it would make your partner feel, before spouting such words.

You never take me out anymore

Using absolutes in an argument often backfires because it simply cannot be true. Saying things such as “you never take me out anymore” cannot possibly be based on reality, and is often just an emotional outburst. According to marriage therapist Mercedes Coffman, uttering even the positive sides of absolutes such as “I will always be truthful with you” sets you for a possible loss of trust because no matter what, there will come a time when you wouldn’t be able, to tell the truth, no matter how honest the intentions. So, think before you make use of such absolutes.

Your mother is so…

Let’s be honest – we all get mad and say things that we shouldn’t have said. However, if you’re mad at your partner, you wouldn’t want to say anything about his or her mother at all. According to Masini, leaving our partner’s mother out of the argument is the best thing you could do to yourself and the relationship. If you denigrate your partner’s parents, you won’t be able to take that back anytime soon.