15 Blunt And Explicitly True Reasons Why You Got Friendzoned (2 of 5)

 

 

You’re his Friend’s Ex

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It is a commonly known bro-code that one must comply with at all costs. Usually dating an ex of a friend may invite unwanted enviousness or bitter spite feeling that can incite further hatred among the guys. It is a good rule, as in such a situation besides the two exes, the guy in between is going to get crushed without any fault of his. The only option viable is being friends with them, as any new romantic relationship in that circle is quite improbable.

Although there are some situations, when the former boyfriend himself is not on speaking terms with your crush, he may get in a relationship with you breaking his honor code. However, it is safe to assume that, under ideal conditions, his friend (your ex) will be on a higher position on his priority list than you, which reduces your scope of engagement to zero. Moreover, you getting in between their bro-ship, may lead to a clash between them, which makes it your duty to respect that and move on.

 

 

He despises your bad habits

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The thing that makes us human is our bad habits. While the trigger responses vary from person to person, like your habit of pen fidgeting may be completely harmless, however, it can annoy the hell out of some people. Your small habits like biting nails or way of eating may put some people off due to hygiene issues. While your other moderate habits like tardiness, grumpiness, are moderately more annoying to more people. While some of your habits may be truly detrimental like excessive alcohol consumption, cigarettes, and drugs, which anyone who tries to refrain away from.

One should try and understand the issue from the perspective of the other person, as they are not just concerned for themselves, but for you too. They can’t see themselves in a bad light, nor do they feel themselves to be capable enough to help. This makes them go farther away from you. In such a situation, before getting into any relationship, it is better to first mend out methods before getting some else involved in them too.

 

 

He actively disregards or is unaware of your efforts

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You are a loving and caring person who expresses their love in the form of presents to others. Thinking about your crush/friend, you buy him presents in all seasons, from Christmas to Easter, to every occasion in ply over his love for you. You give him treats too once in a while, still, he fails to recognize the extra care you are giving, and in a way, your feelings are exploited.

Whenever he messes up things, you are always there for him, to mend things again, however, he disregards them and acts oblivious, which lowers your dignity. This is the point where you stop. Never compromise your helpful nature for inconsiderate folk, as it will just keep on exploiting you.

You need to understand the difference between caring and giving, and accordingly shift your approach from romance to friendship; else he’ll keep on using you, without actually giving you something in return. But you too need to be clear in terms of friendship and act as just. Remember, you are your best friend, don’t let anyone else use you unjustly.