One (Or More) Of These 14 Reasons Is Why You Can’t Get Over Your Breakup (3 of 4)

You have repetition compulsion

Now that’s a strange thing. Repetition compulsion is there if your relationship governs or at least affects your behavior in the present one. You figure out what all went wrong in the past one to ensure it doesn’t repeat. You start being too calculative, overthink, stress, confuse your partner, and do not acquaint them with your real self. All of this work may be of no help. Each one of us is distinct. The things about you which ex didn’t like may be found attractive by this new mate.

You fear that you will be alone

We can relate that it’s hard but you have to go out and continue with your social life. The fear that watching other couples happy together will tear you apart is only in your head. Who cares if you had company the last time you were there and now you are by yourself? Breakups and hookups are a part of life. You have to treat it like that.

You grieve that your relationship had the potential to last

Your grieving will not alter the fact. It would not have ended if it had the potential to stay strong forever. Has anyone ever gained anything from sulking? The answer is a straight no. Then why do it? You can instead focus more on your work, bond with lost, old friends, go shopping, swimming, or whatever that gives you wings. Put the time you waste lying on a couch and torturing your brain with morose thoughts to some use.

You dwell over your regrets

So what if you were a workaholic and didn’t give them enough time? Or maybe failed to balance this relationship and the one you have with your friends or family? You are a human being and it’s impossible to be perfect. We all make mistakes and if someone wants to make it work, they will confront you with the problem and not leave you without even trying to make things right. Stop repenting and cursing yourself. You can’t go back and make amends.