19 Excellent Tips to Spice up Your Relationship After the 40s (2 of 4)

Play 20 Questions

As time passes by and the relationship grows old, you might feel like you know your partner in and out. But, there is never harm in knowing them more and better. So, ask them questions about them, their likes and dislikes, desires, etc. and keep it open-ended. This might bring the feel of a newly sprouted relationship and make you both feel closer. Also, a bit more insight into their present desires might help in the other tips as well because they change with time.

Go on a weekly date night

Amidst all the chaos in our daily lives, work, kids, family, etc., it often happens that we don’t go out with our partners to spend some quality time together for months. To prevent this, it’s really important to plan days every week to go out on a date. Even if you can’t go out because of the busy schedules, then take out time at home to spend together and catch up. This will help in rejuvenating the romance.

Appreciation is the key

It is a common human tendency to like it when you get appreciated. As years pass by, you would want to feel desired by your partner to gain confidence in yourself as well as the relationship. Make it a point to tell each other what you like about them by the end of the day before going to bed. Be it anything ranging from how they looked that day to how they parent the kids. Just make sure, it’s heartfelt.

Declutter

Starting from the very basic, cleaning up your life-both figuratively and literally can help a lot in bringing back the romance. A physical mess can create disturbance in the minds of both. Cleaning it up becomes necessary to spread positive vibes and stay happy. Talking figuratively, it’s necessary to pull yourself out of the relationships that drain you. By 40s, you know it better than the rest. So, pick the relationships that mean the most to you and give them your time and love.

Visit a therapist together

It is a misconception that therapists are only needed when an issue gets out of hand. They can be consulted with even at earlier stages to deal with minor issues, personally or as a couple. Seeing a relationship adviser together can help well in spicing things up and bringing back the old days’ romance. It’s a great way to deal with your issues and come out stronger every single time with new hope and strength.