19 Excellent Tips to Spice up Your Relationship After the 40s (3 of 4)

Surprise them with your new acts of love

There’s no need to celebrate just one Valentine’s Day or your partner’s birthday to express your love for them. For a relationship to go strong a long way, there’s a need for you both to see each day as an opportunity to make each other feel special and give surprises. It need not be big acts of love but can be really small gestures of kindness. You can make them breakfast and tea in bed, give them fresh flowers or chocolates, etc.

Create a strategy for tackling a major goal

It might seem less helpful but trust me looking at the bigger picture together helps you understand what your partner desires. Deciding on a plan of action together for a personal or a couple goal makes them feel important to you. It brings satisfaction and peace to the relationship.

Make foreplay part of your routine

People often don’t consider how much time their partner wants the foreplay to last which is a major mistake. To make things spicier and interesting in a relationship, the foreplay needs to last for a long time before getting intimate. You can start with 20 minutes and then stretch it to a longer duration. But, never do the mistake of underestimating the effect of foreplay.

Put sex on the calendar

Being spontaneous about sex is great but as the relationship grows old, you need to take out time and put dates to ensure regular intimacy. It might not sound sexy to have dates for sex but can make a bond grow well when sex is a priority. This ensures that you don’t forget to take out time for your sexual connection.

Recreate your favorite ideas

The good old times where both of you couldn’t get enough of each other. You can try recreating those memories to bring back the old energy of the relationship. You can do the activities you both used to do earlier, the same sequence but maybe with a different location. It will take you and your spouse back in time to the days where you both were fondly in love with each other.