8 Steps To Overcome Commitment Issues (2 of 3)

Fourth, Rework Committing

What we mean by this is reworking your definition. Committing for many is seen as settling into a relationship for life. And sometimes settling means that you’re okay for settling with less.

That is not the case at all.

The reality is settling means you’ve accepted something you didn’t like and didn’t say anything about it. Settling – in terms of relationships – isn’t where you’re talking about everything that’s lacking in a relationship.

Fifth, Rework Your Needs

When it comes to our needs, it’s important to realize that while relationships won’t hit our needs, changing them won’t satisfy all of our needs too. One person alone isn’t capable of satisfying each of our needs.

In a relationship, you need to break the needs into three sections: your needs, your partner’s needs, and the needs of the relationship.

When you look at successful relationships, they’re succeeding not because they’re meeting every single need. They’re thriving because the couples are able to accept their differences with respect.

To rework your needs, take some time to look outside of the relationship while still maintaining it. For example, say you want to be getting in shape or you have a habit of exercising, but your partner isn’t that big into exercising. Instead of seeing that as incompatible, make a point of finding a workout buddy that can satisfy that need to be with someone while working out.

Sixth, Look For Your Root Causes Of Commitment Fear

When it comes down to it, fear of commitment can equate to fear of the unknown. To know for certain, take some time to do a self-reflection. Now that you’ve reworked a few things, you may be able to find experiences or challenges that can inspire you to forge forward.