17 Tell-Tale Signs Of A Partner Being An Emotionally Abusive Person (2 of 4)

“You are just too sensitive”

Best way to get away after saying stuff that demoralizes you is by telling that you just don’t take them as jokes and are too sensitive. Humiliating anybody in public, be it in any form, sarcasm, joke, etc. isn’t acceptable. It hurts more when out of everybody, it’s your partner making fun of you and instead of apologizing or giving an explanation, they just turn it all on you. You are not overly sensitive or have a bad humor. It’s them who need to change the way they speak and behave.

It’s always you who is wrong

Do you find yourself apologizing to them always? Even when you know it’s not your mistake? Then, you definitely need to go out and ask for help.

Relationships are based on give and take and don’t remain the same when the balance gets disturbed. Say you are mad at them for not turning up for a pre-decided date and they are instead spending time around with colleagues and friends. And you bring this up in a conversation and try to tell them how hurt you were, they will start telling you that you don’t give them their personal space, time and are insecure of them having many friends. A whole guilt trip is what you get for sharing your feelings and it all seems to be your fault. The topic of the conversation gets diverted and you start feeling sorry for your own actions as convinced by your partner.

You are asked to match impossible standards

No doubt that in a relationship, people are on different standard levels because each one of us is different. It is totally normal and acceptable to keep up with the standards of people. But being expected to match a standard which is too high and impossible when they themselves cannot reach it is what carves your mind in a way that you will feel sorry for not being able to do what they ask for. You tend to think bad about yourself and this, in turn, makes it easier for them to take control of you and subdue your behavior and feelings.

Abuse of your physical appearance

In a relationship, you love each other for the way you are emotionally, physically and mentally. If they tell you that you don’t look the same anymore, or that you’ve grown fat or ugly or they abuse your physical appearance in any way, then it’s the time to get out of that useless relationship where you don’t get respect. With time, their behavior will make you feel insecure about yourself and you will rely on them only for a confidence boost, giving them more and more power and control over you. We urge you to seek out help.

They turn out to be more important than you

Even when you are in a relationship, it’s you who should be most important to yourself. Despite this fact, it’s required to be adjusting, cooperative and understanding towards the other person. Sometimes, you need to compromise as well in order to run this relation smoothly. But the thing that is to be thought about here is it should be both of you compromising from time to time, not just you every time. A potential emotionally abusive partner will take every opportunity to make you compromise with your happiness and give their needs priority.