17 Tell-Tale Signs Of A Partner Being An Emotionally Abusive Person (3 of 4)

Spending time with other people is what you are punished for

Punishment is a form of taking control of you. Say if you went out with your friends and family to spend some quality time, you will be given different treatment from the usual as if you have committed some mistake. You will be made to feel guilty that you went out and didn’t spend time with them. The punishment can be in various forms such as silence treatment, passing comments, and taunts, etc. In no time, you will stop doing what you used to do, you will stop going out and spending time with people in order to not receive the punishment. This might set some kind of fear in your mind.

They threaten you in numerous ways

Threatening isn’t always in a physical sense. They might use this tactic to get what they want from you. It might be their wish to spend more time with you, or not going out with your friends. They might withhold finances or some information that you told them putting your confidence in them. They might threaten you that they will disclose your information or secrets to your family and friends. And you’ll end up getting caught in the trap.

Control over your thoughts and feelings

It’s clear by now that the motive of emotionally abusive partners is to control you and run you according to them as if you are a machine. And controlling your thoughts and feelings will be best for them in this scenario. You don’t even get to know when you are being controlled or abused. Say if before doing anything, you think about their reaction and are afraid whether they will be disappointed or yell, these all point towards you being controlled by them. This is why signs of emotional abuse are very difficult to identify and sort.

Humiliation in public

As we mentioned before, humiliating any individual among people isn’t right as it lowers their confidence a lot. This is only done by an emotionally abusive partner in order to make you feel that you aren’t worth the respect you get and do not match their standards. In indirect ways, it will give them power and control over you and you will be subdued. This is what their strategy and motives are, according to experts.

Your partner is hot and cold

Your partner becomes very unpredictable. You never know what might instigate them or make them happy. One moment they love you and the other they distance themselves from you. Ultimately, you try whatever will help you to get them back as their original self. You start doing whatever they ask for in order to avoid having arguments and fights. At the end of the day, peace is all you want. You don’t see it but, in a way, they are making you do what they wish without you knowing it.