9 Essential Tips For Dating When You’re In Your 30s (3 of 3)

Be Aware Of What You Want & Avoid Time Wasters

Before attempting dating, it’s important that you spend time knowing what you want in your partner. When you were younger, you had expectations about your partner. But now that you’re older, those expectations may be nice, but there is more that you’d need.

Our point is that you want to spend time looking at yourself and figuring out what kind of partner you can jive with. After all, now that you’re older, we can imagine you want to have more serious relationships than one-time flings.

This also helps you to avoid time wasters as well. It only takes a handful of dates to determine whether you’re into someone or not. If you run into that, remember that life is short and focus on your other priorities. It’s either that or spending time with someone you don’t want to spend time with.

And you wouldn’t want that right?

But Also Remember To Stay True To Yourself

As the younger folk say “you do you.” The idea is to not pretend to be someone who you aren’t. As the relationship continues on, people slowly begin to reveal more about themselves. So it’s better if you own who you are right now and be comfortable in your own skin.

After all, being comfortable with who you are is more attractive than playing up to be someone you’re not.

By extension of that, it’s also important to trust your gut instinct. If something feels off, make sure you do the honest thing and speak up and talk about it. Your gut instinct isn’t something that will lead you astray.

It’s Okay To Not Settle, But Don’t Do It For “The One”

If you’re not completely and fully committed to someone, there is no problem at all with not tying the knot and keeping things the way things are. Often times, relationships go sour when there is this expectation that you need to tie the knot.

That being said, you do want to be mindful of why you’re not settling down with anyone. We say this because often times some people don’t tie the knot because they’re waiting out for “The One.”

It’s the term used to describe the perfect partner. The thing is though, those don’t exist. There are bound to be some quirks that rub you the wrong way. So keep in mind that you do have to make compromises.