9 Essential Tips For Dating When You’re In Your 30s (2 of 3)

 

 

Remember To Be Vulnerable, Not Jaded Or Bitter

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For those who struggle to make relationships work, it’s important that we be vulnerable and open up. It’s natural for us to be on the defensive side with things, especially if we’ve been hurt in the past.

Instead, take the time to get to know the other person and build your relationship with them. And once you’ve gotten to know them and you and them are into one another, be sure to let your guard down.

This is a better attitude to have than being jaded or bitter. While those emotions are certainly warranted in some cases, negative thinking can get the best of you. So while you’re getting to know someone, don’t go into being negative. You will never find your soulmate if you are being cynical all the time.

 

 

Dump Your Bias Towards Divorce

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Divorce is a painful word for people and when you’re dating at this age, chances are some of them have gone through them. This makes sense since the divorce rate within America is roughly 42% to 50%.

But instead of being dejected about the whole thing, consider it as an advantage. If the person you are dating has gone through a divorce, there is a good chance that they learned a lot from the experience.

What this means is that they can then apply this knowledge into the next relationship they have.

As a general rule, when discussing marriage, don’t pry for details. While you may want to know what happened, let them open up to you about it.

 

 

Remember To Communicate

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You may have heard this piece of advice before, but it is still as relevant as ever: communication is key. It becomes even more important now as most people your age would be looking for something more serious.

As such, you want to make sure that you can speak openly and with honesty to your significant other. At the same time, they too should be able to talk with no issues. After all, if you’re not talking about your problems, it’s going to be tougher to move forward.