20 Lessons Learned From Failed Relationships (2 of 4)

“Be vulnerable.”

Relationships are all about vulnerability. You are opening yourself to another person, so that you can confide in them and hope that they open up in return.

Of course, doing this can be incredibly difficult seeing as heartbreak can stem from trusting someone too much. After being scarred like that it can be hard to open up and begin trusting someone again.

But as a Reddit user stated, it’s worth taking that risk:

“If you want to have genuine relationships, be vulnerable. Let them have the chance of hurting you and trust that they wouldn’t. If they hurt you, it’s better to know early on anyway.”

They have a point. Getting the pain of betrayal early is worth it because you know they were bound to get to that point eventually. It’s easier to start sharing a little bit of information at that point as opposed to sharing more later.

“It’s easy to integrate people into our day than you might think.”

As crazy as you might think, people have a way of weaving into other people’s lives. Since we are social creatures in nature, it makes sense that we are capable of doing these things without even noticing.

That being said, just because someone is wrapped up in your life doesn’t always mean they are interested in who you are and what your life is like deep down. Some will be along for the ride. Those who are actually worth your while will be the ones showing as much interest in making arrangements and being excited for the events as much as you are.

“Don’t feel like you need to be in a relationship.”

There are so many societal norms out there with one of them being that we ought to be dating. The thing is that those who buy into that often end up in a tougher situation and are worse off than being single and “free”.

As one Reddit user put it:

“Being single is better than getting into a relationship just to avoid being alone, as being with someone when you don’t actually like them can make the relationship really awkward.”

The truth of the matter is – being single isn’t a crime and there is no pressure for you to get out there. What’s important is that you find your own happiness your own way. Whether that’s being with someone else or being alone is up to you.

“Let stuff go.”

One problem people run into all the time in relationships is that they want to stick around. Thinking that the relationship can last despite all the obvious signs. One piece of advice to keep in mind is to let things go and to take time to look at yourself and how you’re matching up with your partner.

There is little merit to be gained if you or your partner aren’t showing any interest or aren’t emotionally available. Trying to make things work in those situations is an uphill and miserable battle.

“Good communication is a must.”

Another cornerstone to a solid relationship is communication. As cheesy as it might be, you can’t deny that this is needed. Again, we’re social creatures here.

The only thing is that with every person how we communicate and how we see others is different. What we’ve said in past relationships may not work with new relationships.