20 Lessons Learned From Failed Relationships (3 of 4)

“There is only so much you can compromise.”

They say that love can conquer all, but there are some things that are completely off the table for some people. Things like last names and kids are things that people won’t budge on and it’s in those instances to let the person settle with that opinion.

Sure it can put a strain on a relationship in some cases, but it’s often better to leave it like that. Think about it this way. What’s better: settling that deal breaker or forcing someone to do what you want them to.

Let me tell you, it’s better for the former, rather than the latter.

“When you’re in a healthy relationship, it’ll improve your mental state rather than hinder it.”

A good quality relationship is one that is meant to lift you up and improve your overall state of mind. Sure, relationships have ups and downs and twists and turns, but ultimately the relationship is meant to grow you throughout the process, rather than drag you down.

“Never persuade someone to date you.”

Similar to compromises, you don’t want to force yourself onto people or force people into doing what you want. At the end of the day, the relationship or results that have been gained from forceful tactics are not going to make things better.

In terms of asking someone out, only do so once. Two times is alright only if the person clearly was put off guard about what you said. After that move on as persistence in this case can turn into a lot of suffering for both.

“Always trust your gut.”

The old saying has a lot of truth to it. Make a point of listening to what your body is telling you. Think your partner is cheating on you? Or maybe that you’re not meant to be? Trusting your gut in those instances can help you in softening the damage. After all, continuing the relationship can lead to more pain.

“Being alone is not the worst thing. There are worse out there.”

Being single can suck and for many people they feel that urge to get back in there and start dating again. But it’s better to be cautious and to spend time showing gratitude in some cases, especially if you’re previous relationship was a toxic one.

This advice is incredibly helpful, as the last thing you want to do is be in another relationship that you absolutely loathe being in.