Do you ever catch yourself deciding not to do something because you’ve convinced yourself that you’re going to fail no matter what? You don’t seek out that appealing job vacancy because you figure someone else would do it better than you. Or you do start something and quit right away because you figure there’s no point. It could be that you believe you are unworthy of any success, even the little ones. If you’re constantly criticizing yourself, conclude that you deserve any acts of kindness or compassion, or otherwise do everything possible to keep yourself down, you probably have extremely low self-esteem.
5. You Can Never Accept Positive Comments From Others
When other people praise you — whether it is for a job you did or a compliment on your new hairstyle — it is intended to make you feel good. When a supervisor believes you deserve a pay raise or even a promotion, these are things that should make you feel confident about yourself. But when a person has a toxic relationship with themselves, they are incapable of accepting any form of positive feedback. In many situations, they will simply respond by insisting the praise is undeserved or even untrue. In time, those around you will simply stop even trying because they know you will only answer with bitterness. In order to get yourself out of this cycle of negative thinking, it is important to appreciate kind words and understand that when others say good things to you, it is because they believe in you. What you need to do, therefore, is believe in yourself.
