9 Subtle Ways Women With High EQ Create Change In Their Relationships (5 of 5)

She holds herself accountable

When a couple constantly blames each other, it becomes impossible to effect positive change. An emotionally mature woman is willing to accept accountability when the source of the conflict lies squarely on her behavior. It could be the tone she’s using, assumptions she’s making, or emotional disengagement. She isn’t absolving her partner, she’s simply demonstrated her willingness to acknowledge when she’s wrong. Over time, he begins to model this mature approach, even if he isn’t consciously aware of the adjustments to his behavior.

She seeks to connect rather than attack

A woman with a high EQ (emotional intelligence) understands that criticism is a destructive approach to dealing with conflict. Instead, she puts the focus on what she expects from him rather than what she finds wrong about him. For instance, rather than calling him a lazy manchild, she tells him he needs to follow through on his promises and responsibilities. When it sounds like constructive advice rather than bullying, it opens up an important line of communication.