9 Subtle Ways Women With High EQ Create Change In Their Relationships (3 of 5)

She reevaluates her own expectations

The problem isn’t always about the guy, but rather the expectation. An emotionally mature woman stops to consider whether the standards she places on her partner are realistic, and even whether the way she might be treating him is based on experiences she had in past relationships. This doesn’t mean she lowers the value she places on herself, it’s being able to make a distinction between what’s essential in a partner versus what is merely preferred. As the emotional weight of expectations eases, the partner becomes freer to be present.

She ommunicates honestly and with a sober mind

One of the keys to health change is open communication. A woman with high emotional intelligence feels comfortable about expressing her needs without blaming her man or attacking his character. For instance, she never tells her partner, “You are incapable of listening to me!” Instead, she will state that there’s a feeling of disconnect whenever problems aren’t discussed in an open manner. Rather than responding with defensiveness, her partner sees the situation as an opportunity to cooperate and change the way he addresses disagreement.