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What Truly Matters in Relationships: 8 Insights That Change Everything

Dr. George Pransky’s Relationship Handbook is among the most useful books on relationships you’ll come across. It was first published in 1991, and while some of its outdated language reflects this, it nonetheless remains very relevant today. It offers simple but effective advice on how to avoid many of the typical pitfalls that damage both romantic and platonic connections and instead enjoy the depth of a strong, lasting bond.

If you grasp these 8 key ideas, you’ll be well on your way to better relationships:

1. Perception Doesn’t Always Match Reality

Pransky points out that our thoughts are fleeing and rarely represent objective reality. The biggest problem when we react to negative or distorted thoughts is that we’re prone to misinterpreting our relationships and, as a result, stir up unnecessary drama. It is important to be aware when your reaction stems from a passing thought rather than through careful consideration of the issue. Take a moment to really assess the situation and wait for clarity. By doing this, you’ll avoid feeling angry or offended over simple misunderstandings.