The One True Quality That Makes Or Breaks a Relationship (2 of 3)

By hiding the truth, you are essentially living a lie whenever you and your partner get together. They aren’t being allowed to know the real you, which is unfair to them because they might very well be wasting their time with the wrong partner. There are certain lies that you can keep for a while, but the truth will eventually come out, and when it does, your significant other is left deciding whether they want to be with the person they thought they loved or the person who turns out to have a lot of baggage?

The best—and quite frankly only—time to be completely authentic with your partner is at the beginning of the relationship. At this stage, you tend to see each other through rose-colored glasses. Positive feelings are in abundance, and there is more of an eagerness to forgive. Resilience is high, and bouncing back from setbacks is far easier.

You might be thinking to yourself, “But if I’m honest with them, they might not like me.” But here’s the thing: if they genuinely love you for who you are, they will accept you, warts and all. And if they can’t, then the relationship wasn’t meant to be anyway.