10 Effective Strategies When You Experience Jealousy In Your Relationship (3 of 6)

4. Jealousy can come from our own unique past experiences

Let’s face it: how we deal with people is bound to be shaped by our past experiences. Friends, family, and previous romantic relationships have a big impact on the source of our pain and insecurity. But just because, for example, your ex-boyfriend cheated on you doesn’t mean that you should assume the worst of your current partner. By telling them you’ve been hurt in the past, they might be more sensitive and attentive to your needs, which in turn will lead to less jealousy. 

5. Address your insecurities

Before you talk to your significant other, determine the root cause of your behavior and commit yourself to addressing your anxieties. Rather than wallow in self-pity, think about all of your positive traits. Are you compassionate, trustworthy, and a good communicator? Embracing these strengths and seeking a partner who values you for these traits will help you overcome your feelings of jealousy.