8 Signs You’re Going on a Date Out of Pity (3 of 5)

4. You feel superior to them

Let’s admit it: from time to time we encounter people who we feel are below our standards. Perhaps they aren’t as educated, don’t have the kind of life experiences that earn our respect, or are less attractive than the kind of people we’d typically go out on a date with. We hint that we’re doing them a favor by giving them even an ounce of attention. Frankly, we’d rather be anywhere else, but don’t want to be honest with them about it. It might seem cruel, but it is what it is. 

5. You turn down their gifts

Rejecting a guy or girl’s gift isn’t a sign in itself that you’re pity dating someone. For instance, you might not feel comfortable accepting a pricey gift on the initial date even if you’re otherwise interested in them. Or you might be the type who feels happier giving gifts rather than receiving. Nonetheless, if you’re turning down an item or insisting on splitting the bill because you don’t want to give them the impression that they have a chance with you, it’s a pity date.