28 Toxic Things That Your Partner Should Stop Doing Right Now (7 of 7)

Insisting you to cut loose from your financial independence

Your partner has no right to ask you to give up your financial independence for the sake of the relationship.

Whatever empire you’ve built, whatever passion you pursue or whatever corporate office you work in is the accomplishment and proof of your hard work. The last thing they should be doing is to ask you to give it up or threaten the relationship if you don’t.

Your partner may or may not be with you till the end of time, but you will always be with yourself.

They can wake up one Tuesday morning and decide they don’t want to be with you anymore, but your career, education, and accomplishments will never leave your side. Don’t let go of what’s yours for what’s not meant to be.

Checking your phone

This is a major red flag. Ask them to respect your privacy. Forcing you to give them your phone so that they can go through your digital interactions is a serious offense that violates your privacy.

This also hints to a major underlying issue that they might be dealing with -trust issues. If you see such signs where they are finding it hard to trust you for no valid reason, you and your partner probably need to sit and address them maturely.

Talk to him about his underlying fears or past experiences that might have been the reason for such issues. If there are none and he is doing it out of plain habit, chances are he is of controlling nature.

The sooner you get out of such relationships, the better.

Making you change or give up on your religion

If you are dating somebody from a different caste, creed, or religion – they should not and neither should you force the other to give it up. Casteist mentality and untouchability are still quite prevalent, even in subtle ways.

If they’re biased against the religion you follow and want you to give it up, you don’t even need to sit and talk it out with them. The best way of dealing with this problem would be to walk out of the relationship.

If they don’t respect and admire your authenticity, you certainly cannot expect them to be supportive of you later in life. This also sheds light on their controlling nature, which can prove to be toxic for your mental health.

Thinking that mental or physical abuse is okay

Nope. No, nada. If you are in a physically abusive relationship, leave. End of story.

Understanding your relationship’s loopholes and finding a workaround is important. Often, we tend to prolong a relationship due to fear of being abandoned, or because we just can’t let go even if the relationship is taking a toll on our mental health.

If you find such subtle signs where your partner seems to be disrespectful of your choices and your authentic self, it’s necessary to call them out on it. If you don’t, chances are, your true self and individuality can get lost in petty conversations because of frequent fights.

If you see that your partner is willing to have a mature conversation with you, and is ready to deal with the issues, your relationship still has some hope. But if not, you need to call it quits. There are boundaries in every relationship, only those sustain which learn to respect them.