28 Toxic Things That Your Partner Should Stop Doing Right Now (4 of 7)

Escaping a conversation

When you are entwined in a serious emotional relationship with your partner, situations like differences in opinion, offensive acts, disagreements, and discords are normal.

What isn’t normal is them always trying to drop the talk midway, or changing the topic to gear the conversation to some other direction every time you are trying to communicate your problems.

Communication is key, and if your partner is not willing to communicate properly to understand your likes and dislikes, your triggers and pet peeves, or why you reacted the way you reacted, it might lead to residual repressed anger that can be toxic for your mental health.

You’ll feel as if you were not able to express your thoughts and feelings, and haven’t received a proper justification from their side either. Talk, communicate, converse. If they insist on dropping the conversation every time, go ahead, and drop the relationship.

Always playing the blame game

More often than not, if we tend to go through a rough day at work or through any mental distress, we automatically take it out on our partners or blame them for it altogether.

While it’s common human nature to lash out or express emotions vividly to someone close to us, it’s no news that such situations create a distance between you and your partner.

If you’re emotionally invested in someone, try not to play the blame game or cause them discomfort for something they have not done. You’ll only end up creating a larger distance than there is between you.

And this goes both ways, for you and your partner alike.

Forcing you to keep the relationship under covers

This first and foremost rule that you need to follow is to be exclusive with your partner. If your partner is insisting upon keeping the relationship a secret, chances are they are not ready for a full-time commitment yet.

The only reason for a person to persuade you to keep the relationship under covers would be the fact that they don’t want the public to know what they’re up to and to keep their wrongdoings safe. These are major red flags.

Probably they aren’t full-well committed to you, probably they are seeing someone behind your back or are willing to still explore their options staying in the relationship.

If you allow the ‘without label’, ‘non-exclusive’, or ‘unofficially committed’ situation to take place, you’ll surely be settling for less.

Communicate your thoughts regarding this with your partner and see if they would want to make the relationship public, if not, it’s better to leave them broken pieces on the floor and move on.

Insisting you to be like someone else

Your partner should never ask you to be like someone else. If you find yourselves stuck in frequent arguments where they throw out comments like “You should be more like her” or “You should be more like him”– then those are absolute deal-breakers.

Make them understand that it’s a relationship where you have to accept the other person for who they are. This isn’t a mutation project where you can ask your partner to completely change themselves into somebody else.