16 Ways How You Might Be Possibly Ruining Your Relationship With Your Child! (2 of 3)

 

 

Abstaining from giving them benefit of doubt

Hugging Child, Sleeve, Gesture

Making mistakes is part of a child’s growth, but counting those mistakes as intentional would create mistrust from both sides that, no doubt, leads to alienation from your child. Make a change within yourself to overlook those petty mistakes and train yourself to think that it might have been an accident, and your child didn’t mean harm. Assess their capacity for understanding things and make the decision accordingly. Do not fail to remind them, though, that you do not like what mistakes they have done, but at the same time understand that those mistakes were not deliberate. Explain to them how and what they could do to mend those mistakes.

 

 

Avoiding speaking with your kids on difficult topics

Child And Parent Talking, Joint, Hairstyle, Shoulder, Comfort, Human

With all the ambivalence of emotions your child deals with every day, if you do not become their mentor, they would have no one to turn to other than their mates and their gut, which often doesn’t turn out to be good! To keep such a situation from taking root, do not make too much a taboo of topics as sex and drugs to discuss. Gita Zarnegar, Ph.D., therapist and co-founder in The Center for Authenticity says that children are perceptive enough to pick up those non-verbal cues of discomfort their parents face. It might turn out that your ignorance of such topics speaks up even more to your children about it, and perhaps not in a way you would want them to know.

 

 

Is the time being spent linked to devices?

Parent On Phone Child, Smile, Hand, Hairstyle, Shoulder, Facial expression, Organ, Human, Happy, Gesture

Spending ‘quality’ time becomes hordes easier if you both are relying on electronic devices, but as they say – good things don’t come easy! Such togetherness is all the more meaningless because you are not with each other actually in reality, but are connecting through some external prop, said Heidi McBain, an LMFT from Flower Mound in Texas. To limit such concerns, parents should set boundaries around electronic equipment, as well as themselves and other family members. Instead of relying on such devices, you could plan some other enjoyable activities to lighten up your mood and connect better, like going out for a stroll, baking something sweet together, or maybe going on picnics.

 

 

Spoon-feeding your child

Child Avoiding Food, Hand, Table, Tableware, Sharing

Parents nowadays are becoming increasingly loving, they tend to screen their children from the slightest of uneasiness, but doing so, they are holding back their children from personal growth and reaching the full potential they otherwise could. Zarnegar states that doing everything for the children deprives them of the experiences that would otherwise only lead to their improvement. Not having such experiences would make them unaware of their weaknesses and the areas they need to improve, and such children would go on to develop a demeaning sense about themselves and what their capacities are.

 

 

Not celebrating your child’s achievements

Time Outs, Skin, Arm, Shoulder, Comfort, Leg, Flash photography, Plant, Gesture

The primary source of pride and confidence for a kid is their parent’s validation. Just a mere appreciation shall root a feeling of success in the child, as well as strengthen your bond. Mayra Mendez, Ph.D., LMFT, and a psychotherapist from Santa Monica in California, claims that it is the good traits in a child their parents should seek, as well as point out. It is not about spoiling them with all the sweet words, rather, praising their hard work – the process they put in to achieve that feat, and not just the result. Doing so requires close observation of what your child is good at, the positives they do, howsoever small they might be.