7 Signs Of A Failing Relationship (2 of 2)

There Is Controlling Behaviour

One of the big signs of an abusive partner is when they are driving a wedge between you and other people that you hold dear in your life. As such, it’s an obvious sign if your partner ever tries to pull something like this.

How you can spot this is when conversations begin to form into a “us VS them” scenario. Often times partners will frame division tactics as needing to choose between them or others as an expression of “love.”

When You Are Looking For Different Things

One thing we suggest early on in relationships is to have a talk about relationship goals. What do you want to be getting out of a relationship? It does sound selfish, but the fact is people use other people all the time. So why would this be any different?

This conversation though can work two fold though. For one it allows you to think about your goals and your expectations. But it also is a good sign of whether things will work out or not.

While it’s alright for partners to have differences in opinions, it’s important that long-term goals are still relatively close. If you’re looking to be travelling the world, you want to make sure that your partner would ideally love to join you, or help you with that goal.

The key here is that the goals that each of you have intertwine in some way.

After that, it’s important that you respect each others decisions. Of course this doesn’t mean you have to live with them if they’re deal breakers, but don’t go out of your way to change them. This also applies to things beyond goals like whether they want to get married, have kids, live in certain areas, or do various activities.

That being said, do keep in mind that peoples opinions do change over time. Still be respectful of their decision, but remember to have an open mind.

Not Being Oneself

Authenticity is another important aspect to a relationship now more than ever before. We want authenticity with our brands and businesses, so it makes sense that we want those we engage with to be authentic as well.

As a result, one sign that the relationship will fail is when we try to hide who we are or play up who we are. You don’t want to do that because eventually, people will begin to see through that the further the relationship goes.

You’re Experiencing Abuse

The last sign we’ll cover is abuse. Abuse of any kind is a dead giveaway and it should never be rationalized or tolerated. It’s abusive behaviour and it’s not good. Plain and simple.

That being said, it can be a little tricky to spot this. There are many kinds of abuse and while some are obvious, some are more subtle. An example is the one we gave above where choosing between one or the other is an expression of love. It’s subtle and it’s sneaky.

It’s a matter of paying attention to them and knowing when you’re feeling uneasy or manipulated. Whenever you’re feeling that or hurt in any way, it’s probably abuse.