Large Life Events
The loss of a family member or a job loss is big for the person, but can also put strains on relationships. While there isn’t much we can do in these cases, it’s important to show support in a reasonable manner.
Often times these moments of vulnerability can lead to rifts. One can develop sex or drinking or gambling problems. Or they may make rash decisions where they want to move to another area. These can put strains, since these decisions don’t always align with the previously stated goals.
Whatever the case is in the relationship, do make an effort to not change your partner. What we mean by this is work on loving them for who they are and try not to change them.
Yes, events can shake people and people do have their faults.
But it’s smarter to accept them and if they want help – give them guidance and support. Similar to having unrealistic expectations for them, even having any kind of expectations can alter how you view them and the relationship.
