Your Mental State Isn’t In The Right Place
There can be all kinds of mental distortions that put strains on relationships.
Some considerations are:
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- You’re stuck in the past. When in a relationship, it’s important to be in the present. If you’re stuck in the past and reflecting too much on past failures, you’re going to fail to be present and work on improving.
- Another is having trust issues. Whether it’s from the past, or something what happened with your current partner, not being able to trust them is a clear sign the relationship is crumbling.
- A byproduct of trust issues is not being open. While people are entitled to their own secrets, if there are too many, it can feel like one is stepping on eggshells. It’s also a constant reminder that not only will they not tell you, but it can leave room for lying. Those who keep their secrets will often pull this line: “You just couldn’t handle it if I was open and honest with you, which is why I had to lie.”
- Another part of that trust issue can stem from money as well. In this scenario it’s not so much how money is spent, but how one thinks they’re spending is like. Money is a big thing in a relationship. People get divorced over it. So make sure you talk about it.
