13 Signs Divorce Is Coming (4 of 4)

There Are More Silences And Less Depth

Silence doesn’t always mean something is festering underneath. Sometimes silence can be really good. But it starts to become tougher when there are awkward silences.

It’s a given that in two years into a relationship, there will be conversational plateaus. It’s not so much that you’re not going anywhere, but they’re pretty standard and are nice all around. But once those conversations start to become awkward, that’s where it’s tougher. By not being able to make small talk with them, it can be a sign that you’re disconnected from them.

On the other hand, a lack of deep conversations can also be a troubling sign of divorce. Sure they’re not going to pop up every single day, but these deep conversations are important. They’re opportunities to get to know one another better and show deeper appreciation for them. If all you are having with them is empty “small talk” and not digging deeper, then it’s a sign of total lack of interest.

You’re Codependent Or Too Independent

Codependency stems from being around one another most of the time. While togetherness is important, you don’t want to feel totally attached to one another over the day. At the end of the day, there is a problem if you’re spending way too much time together.

In happy relationships, while a good portion of time spent is with each other, there is also time for them to do their own thing. Whether it’s work or a hobby, it’s important for couples have some time to themselves in some way.

Of course, there is something to be said about too much alone time as well. When you’re shutting away the other person, it’s as we’ve said before: you’re not invested in the relationship. Being alone and preferring it suggests you might as well not be in a relationship at all.

What we’re getting at is that there needs to be a balance between alone time and quality time together.

You Spend More Time On Your Phone Or With Your Vices

Social media addiction is a thing and when you are spending more time on your phone overall than with your spouse, then it’s a clear sign that divorce is coming. According to a 2014 Pew report, 72 percent of adult internet users stated that the internet had “no real impact” on their marriage. While that’s good, the same report said that 20 percent who said it did have an impact and said it was negative.

In the end, if you or your partner is spending more time on their phone than with you, or is distracted by their phone, it’s bad.

The same holds true to our vices as well. Whether it’s gambling, drinking, smoking, or some other unhealthy habit, these vices can be seen in the same way as overusing our phone. Instead of dealing with marital problems, we focus more on these things as a means of distracting ourselves.

There Is Little Interest In Working It Out

The beauty about relationships and people is that they can bounce back. There is marriage counselling, but also we can look to ourselves and improve ourselves as well. If you think your marriage is worth it, it’s worth taking the time to change your ways or your partner’s ways.

Keep in mind that you can’t force change on them, but it’s worth asking them if they want to heal the relationship and fix it. Lack of intimacy, jealousy and loneliness can be fixed. So long as both parties involved want to work it out.

If not, well, it’s hard to fix it if someone refuses to change.