15 Difficult Resolutions To Keep
With the new year come new resolutions. It’s that time of the year when people are eager to get going and doing something new. But more often than not, many of those who set resolutions either achieve those resolutions a few years later or they give up in the first few weeks or even months.
That’s not to say that resolutions are impossible, but it’s mostly the way people go about setting them. Below are some of the difficult resolutions to be setting, but also some tips to consider when going about these resolutions.
This is the classic resolution that you hear time and time again. “I want to lose weight this year.”
You probably have grown numb from hearing that at this point and I don’t blame you. After all, those who start off with this resolution are bound to fail. But as for the reasons it’s more to do with specifics. While weight loss is achievable, it’s important to be more specific. How much weight do you want to lose? How are you going to achieve that? How much time do you want to give yourself to achieve that goal?
Going to finer details makes it real as opposed to a vague statement.
Another resolution similar to weight loss is eating healthy. You’ll often hear people say “I want to eat healthier.”
But you run into the same situation with what I mentioned above. It’s too vague. What does being healthy mean to you? Instead, be specific, but also make small changes. If you are hooked to sugar foods, don’t cut them entirely.
Instead, gradually switch out all of the candy in your house with healthier snacks like fruit or veggies.
While it might not be a massive shift immediately, it does make that resolution easier to keep.
Going To The Gym More
Riding the health train for resolutions more, another one people use is going to the gym more. It might be part of their strategy with losing weight, but it’s prone for failure for various reasons.
Some of it stems from execution. Whenever people start out a workout routine or do a training regimen, they often go all out. Their goal is to make the most out of their time at the gym or that exercise routine.
What happens in reality is that the next day you’re stiff, sore, and likely frustrated that your results were so small. In the end, most give up before they’ve even started.
What’s smarter is working at your own pace. Pick up a simple routine where the challenge is tailored to you.
Not Having A Plan
All of these resolutions I’ve mentioned all have one thing in common: they lack a plan. As the old saying goes – “fail to plan is a plan to fail.”
If you’re looking to stick to a resolution, there needs to be planning. Set some goals around it, outline the steps you need to take. Take a few weeks to record your progress on paper.
Not Having Clear Outcomes
In addition to having a plan, it also pays to know expected outcomes. Not necessarily the finished results, but you at least want to know if you do one thing, you expect something to happen.
If you work out consistently, you expect that in a week or two you’ll start to lose weight for example.
Everyone wants to achieve happiness in their own way, but it’s not something that can happen overnight. Being happier is about shifting your mindset and it’s not as simple as flicking a switch.
The reality is that we can’t control our feelings at all times. What’s more important as a resolution in this instance is to set a goal to do more things you enjoy doing. Or maybe being around people you want to spend more time with.
Resolutions like this can bring happiness to you.
Not Having Any Support In Place
While some goals can be achieved solo, there is nothing wrong with having some support in other areas. From having a gym buddy to having someone ask you how things are going, those kinds of things provide benefits.
Even if that person isn’t directly encouraging you, asking about your progress on something can mean a big deal in getting them to do something and sticking to it.
Setting Resolutions Through Social Pressure
At the same time, I can understand why some people would prefer to set goals alone. In some cases, people cave in and commit to something all because someone else they know is doing it. I mean, sure, that can help in some fashions, but motivation from outside forces doesn’t last long.
Where you get your motivation from is on you, but in order to stick to something, there needs to be internal effort and internal motivation eventually.
Resolutions On Quitting Cold Turkey
The idea about cold turkey is immediately stopping that bad habit. Whether it’s smoking, drinking soda, eating too much sweets, often times stopping and not giving yourself any wiggle room spells failure.
Because a bad habit is still a habit. It’s not good, but for some people they’ve spent years in that habit cycle. They’ve grown addicted and accustomed to that activity. When we tell ourselves to stop doing that, we experience withdrawals.
Headaches. Cravings. And more.
Instead of stopping immediately, look for healthy substitutes for those habits. Going back to what I said earlier, consider eating fruit when you get sugar cravings. For smoking, look to why you smoke in the first place and make gradual changes based on that. For example, if you smoke for social interaction, consider hanging out with a new crowd once a week starting out.
Another tough resolution to work on is being organized. While some of us push for cleaner spaces, it doesn’t always mean that’s organized. Even a clean space can be disruptive to some people.
Instead of going out and getting bins and shelving to better organize stuff, consider your definition of organization. What is the best way for you to arrange that space, so you can make the most out of it?
When you have a clearer idea of where you want everything, it saves you time from cramming things in haphazardly.
Resolutions That Have A Weak Benefit
When you have a goal, it’s important to know why you’re doing it in the first place. Like I said above with social pressure, that’s not really a reason to pursue something. In that example it’s more like “I’m doing this because someone else is too.”
It’s not as strong as “I’m doing this because of this/these reason(s)…”
When we have strong reasons for doing something, we’ll find ways to do it. Not only that, but we’ll pay attention to the positive changes that happen in our lives.
Having Resolutions That Lack Immediate Rewards
When we have resolutions with delayed results, we set ourselves up for more success. Sure, going for that jog in the morning does provide benefits in lowering our blood pressure.
But having those long-term rewards is what keeps us going. In this example, it’s those pair of pants that you loved when you were younger. Or maybe it’s that top that used to fit you so well.
When we are aware of the immediate rewards around us, we have things to work towards and aspire for.
Making More Money
Another resolution people are closely affiliated with is making more money. The problem with this resolution is that salaries are slow in getting increases. The same goes for hourly wages. Sure, some places may get a few bumps in wages or salary, but it’s not a significant long-term change.
Instead, it’s smarter to consider one or both of these options:
- Either look for ways to save more money. You can do this by looking at spending habits and finding what habits you can cut or make changes, so you keep more money.
- Or you can look for new revenue streams. Set up a side business. Pick up a hobby that makes a little bit of money on the side and work to grow it.
Stuff You Don’t Want To Change
One of the keys to a lasting change is our willingness to do so. No matter how much external motivation we may have, we often turn back to the way things were if we’re not ready or don’t want to change.
This applies to anything in our lives.
If you want to stop drinking, smoking, or be healthier or wealthier, you’ll need to be committed to those changes. You’ll need to be committed to the new you that you want to be achieving.
Goals You Don’t Think You’ll Ever Achieve
It was Henry Ford who said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” That statement has a lot of truth to it when you consider motivation, and of course, doubt.
If you lack confidence in yourself that you’ll achieve anything, how in the world do you expect yourself to get there? When we have confidence in ourselves – for whatever reason that may be – we do eventually come out on top!