Dodging The Question
Kids learn at a young age to sometimes dodge questions as well. It’s not always pinning the blame, but it’s normally things that try to halt conversations.
First one is “I’m fine.” It’s not so much the words in this case, but rather the body language to look for. Often times kids say this with a big frown, a furrowed brow and folded arms. A clear tell they’re not fine, but clearly bothered and angry about something.
Another is procrastination at it’s finest. Grown ups do this too whether it’s saying it to someone or themselves. It’s the classic “I’ll do it tomorrow.” This is a lie because in the life of a teen there is ample time to get other things done.
Another form of dodging questions is saying “That isn’t mine.” It’s a lie because we often find these along with other items that do belong to them. Funny how possession works right?
The final one is “I’m listening.” Much like with “I’m fine” you need to look at body language. Look for the signs of listening: hands free, eyes looking at you. That is how you listen.
