17 Most Common Arguments Couples Have During The Holidays
The holidays are meant to bring happiness in your life, as you get to spend some quality time with your near and dear ones, exchange gifts, unwind with cocoa and cookies by the fire. Despite everything, couples do end up arguing and fighting over the very same things that are supposed to bring them together, instead.
If you find yourself arguing with your partner, you are not alone. For some strange reason, couples having arguments and fights during the holiday season is a very common phenomenon. So, irrespective of whether you’re in a relationship or single, you will definitely appreciate these holiday arguments every couple has had at some point in the past. Without further ado, let’s jump right into it!
Whether politics should be discussed at the dinner table or not
For some bizarre reason, politics always finds itself as a topic of discussion on a dinner table. However, that doesn’t mean your spouse might like it. According to relationship experts, you should always stay away from discussing topics such as politics or money at the dinner table. One should keep it light, and enjoy the dinner instead.
When to start decorating for the holidays
If you’re the kind of person who wants to wait till Thanksgiving is over to finally put up the Christmas decorations, you’ll do yourself some good if you actually succumb to your partner’s “request” in this scenario.
According to relationship experts, people typically like to associate with things that can bring a sense of happiness, and Christmas decorations allow them to reminisce about their childhood feelings. Decorations are nothing but a pathway to those good old magical emotions of childhood. So, by putting up those decorations early gives them more time to enjoy those exciting feelings.
Whether to host
If you decide to host guests at your place during the holidays, it can certainly be a fun thing to do. However, hosting also brings a lot of responsibility that your spouse may or may not like to deal with. Cooking, cleaning, and then welcoming a ton of guests isn’t exactly how everyone wants to enjoy their Christmas.
However, there are a lot of people who actually find great fun and excitement in hosting their friends and family members – and if your partner is one of those people, you’ll end up arguing with them whether or not it is a good idea to host people on Christmas. You should always remember that all the preparation that goes into hosting a party isn’t exactly a fun thing, but if your partner really wants to host people, it can be worth it.
When you should tell your kids about Santa
It is all about personal preference on when parents should tell their kids that Santa Claus isn’t real. However, things become tricky when the parents can’t agree on the right time to tell their kids. Unfortunately, it does end up causing a lot of arguments and fighting at a time when it should be all about fun and happiness.
This thing isn’t worth ruining your Christmas over, and if your spouse really insists that they want to tell the kids that Santa isn’t real, you just have to make sure that it is done in a more compassionate and gentle way.
Which holiday should be celebrated
This struggle only happens in a dual-religion or dual-ethnic couple where there are more than one holidays, as it gets difficult to decide which holiday needs to be celebrated in case there’s an overlap of festivals. According to relationship experts, one should always work with a third party – a neutral one – to figure out which festival to celebrate. In all other cases, there are bound to be arguments and that isn’t a pleasant thing to have during the festive season.
Who gets to drink (and who is meant to stay sober and drive)
Holidays offer us a perfect opportunity to enjoy a glass of red wine or a flute of champagne without a care in the world. However, it becomes tricky when you’re not hosting the party, though. Who is supposed to stay sober and be the driver for the night?
Obviously, no one likes turning down free alcohol during the festivities while their partner indulges – but every festival season, somebody has to. While using a ride-sharing app can be a solution to this problem, the surged prices don’t make it an ideal choice. And even in this age of Uber and other ride-sharing apps, this remains one of the most common holiday arguments.
The ideal time to eat on Thanksgiving
In a lot of households, a Thanksgiving dinner isn’t exactly a dinner but more of a lunch, since it takes place during the daytime. Typically, it is a blend of both preference and tradition that decides the time of the dinner, but if you and your spouse grew up in households that had vastly different traditions, you both might end up arguing over when you should start carving the turkey at 3 P. M. or 7 P. M.! Our advice – meet in the middle and have your Thanksgiving dinner at 5 P. M.
When is the right time to open presents
Imagine this scenario: your kids are literally begging to open their Christmas presents, and your spouse is more than willing to let them do so. You, on the other hand, feel like they should wait but you’re not sure if you want a mess on the Christmas Eve. Sounds familiar?
This is one of the most common arguments that couples have during the holiday season. And while both sides are correct in such a scenario, you can easily find a compromise by letting them open just one present before Christmas, while the rest is saved for the Christmas.
Which flicks to watch on Christmas Eve
Your spouse wants to watch A Christmas Story, while you have always watched Home Alone on Christmas Eve. We know that it is a silly argument to have, but it happens in most households all the same. Fortunately, there’s a solution for this: watch both movies back to back. Problem solved!
Whether to watch a football match on Thanksgiving
If you are one of those spouses who find it annoying that football is aired even on Thanksgiving, you are not alone. However, if your spouse really wants to watch football, then let them watch it – only if they agree to sit at the dinner table and enjoy the Thanksgiving dinner with the near and dear ones first.
How much time should be spent with the in-laws
Let’s accept it – not every person loves spending the precious holiday season with their in-laws, and that is totally a fine thing. However, if you really care about how your partner feels – and we are certain that you do – you should try your best to find a compromise, and most importantly, understand that family is important for your spouse.
In order to survive the “holiday hustle”, it is important that you communicate with your partner honestly. You should always remember that it is your partner’s family we’re talking about here, and they most certainly have a different perspective of them. And it is completely normal for couples to take time to adjust to feelings about each other’s parents. The key here is to be respectable and if you communicate honestly with your partner, it is a win-win for both of you.
How to manage the cleaning tasks
Even if you are not hosting this holiday season, you will still have a ton of cleaning to do once Christmas is gone. Right from the wrapping papers from presents to the pine needles from the Christmas tree and putting all the decorations back in the storage – everything needs to be done, and it takes a lot of effort to clean up everything.
However, cleaning is one thing no one wants to do, especially after a tiring holiday season, which leads to arguments and fights between the couples. The best thing to do is just split the chores and save your own and your spouse’s sanity.
How many presents should you buy for the kids
There’s always an argument between spouses over what and how many presents should be bought for their kids for Christmas. In fact, it is one of the most common arguments couples have during holidays.
While some people believe that Christmas time should be “yes” time, and everything their kids ask for should be provided to them, others don’t agree with this at all. If you and your spouse are not on the same page on this aspect, it is always wise to find a common ground so that it doesn’t become a ground for arguments and fights.
What to do on New Year’s Eve
Opposites might find themselves attracted to each other, New Year’s Eve isn’t the time for having differences at all – especially if you’re in a relationship. While the introvert person in the relationship might just want to stay inside the house and enjoy a calm and casual New Year’s Eve, the extrovert would definitely like to go out and party with others.
If you are in a relationship with a person who’s either far too less or far too more social than you are, just try to find common ground and make sure you’re keeping in mind your partner’s needs as well.
How much money to spend on presents
Another common cause of arguments during the holidays, it is a tricky one to handle for most people. Taking care of the finances during the holidays can be a difficult task because it’s December, and the difference in the way you spend becomes more apparent during this time. And according to relationship experts, monetary differences are one of the leading causes of fights (and divorce), so it is important that you have honest communication with your partner and discuss things accordingly.
What gifts should be bought for the family members
Gifts are surely the most debated and discussed things during the holidays. Even if you are lucky enough to find common ground with your partner on the budget, you still have to compromise on the gifts that should be given to every person on the list. You should avoid this discussion and instead, split your shopping list in half so that both of you can buy things accordingly.
Where to spend the holidays?
Imagine this scenario: Your family lives on the West Coast, your partner’s family lives on the East Coast. You, on the other hand, live right in the middle – equidistant from both families. So, the million-dollar question is – where do you spend the holidays?
This is one of the most common arguments that couples have during the holiday season. All you want to do is just spend some time with both your families, and there doesn’t seem to be a way out. Practically, there isn’t a proper solution to this, and you have to compromise. The best you can do is celebrate every alternate year at both your families – a win-win!
And finally, holidays are supposed to be that time of the year when you just rewind and share love, compassion, and happiness with those around you. And there’s no love without compromise. So no matter what tricky situation you find yourself into, talking to your spouse in an honest manner and reaching common ground with ensuring you both can enjoy the holidays rather than fight and ruin this quality time.