All You Need To Know About Couple Therapy
Is your relationship going downhill? Do you and your spouse get into serious arguments over trivial matters? If yes, then you may be in need of a couple therapy. Now don’t freak out and say your relationship isn’t that troubled. Seeking the help of a couple therapist is no taboo. And the best part is that they may resolve all or any of the complaints that you have with your spouse and get you two to again fall crazily in love with each other.
But, before you start contemplating whether couple therapy is the answer to your messed up personal life or not, it is best you get to know what it is all about. We are sure you thought every visit to the therapist would involve a lot of many altercations, deeply buried secrets coming to light, and many such uncomfortable topics being discussed. However, all of this isn’t true. It’s not how you see in HBO dramas.
The very first session of the therapy would be an introductory one where you may be asked about the problems you are facing as a couple. Through this session, the therapist doesn’t just get to know you, but also observes how you both communicate with each other, how coordinated you both are, and any tension or conflicts arising due to any particular subject. They also try and get out of you what problems each one of things is wrecking your married life.
To be true, the therapist isn’t simply assessing the couple sitting across them. What they actually do is try and figure out the relationship you two share, which is an entity different from the two people who are present there. It is this third entity, which they attempt to work upon, and treat.
Do not be under the notion that the therapist would be acting like a referee pointing out who was wrong and who was right at any given situation. They are never going to take sides with one of the partners and assist the other one in changing the former. What they do is make the couples perform things that are needed to make the relationship strong and steady.