Get Over These 9 Relationship Deal Breakers In 2020 If You Want A Healthy Relationship (2 of 3)

They have a different tolerance level for clutter than you do

Every person in the world has a different level of “acceptability” when it comes to clutter and cleanliness in the house – and yes, it may sound a bit frightful for a lot of people. However, communicating with your partner and setting expectations can help in bridging that gap to quite an extent, and preventing it from being a relationship deal breaker.

According to relationship expert Robert Kendall, when either partner tells the other person how they want the home to be, it can destroy a relationship in no time. On the other hand, finding that common tolerance level for the amount of clutter that can be acceptable, dishes in the sink, and where the dirty laundry needs to be kept, goes a long way in ensuring no one loses their sanity over trivial stuff.

They have debt

Everyone wants a partner who is financially responsible. However, even if minor amounts of debt make you run away from a potential partner, you should think twice before doing that.

According to Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez, a personal finance author, understanding the context behind the debt is far more important before making it a relationship deal breaker, irrespective of whether it is a credit card debt or unpaid student loans. For instance, a layoff, unexpected illness or an accident can also make that debt appear direr on paper than it actually is.

This is precisely why one needs to hear out and understand the complete story before one treats any sort of debt as a deal breaker. In fact, the deal breaker should be your potential partner’s unwillingness to even discuss it or address the issues that led to that debt in the first place, rather than the debt itself.

You both have different libidos

Sex is definitely one of the most important things one looks for while finding a potential mate. However, one also needs to keep the fact in mind that our libido is constantly changing – and you should keep this fact in mind before you make it a deal breaker about a potential mate.

According to Kendall, relationships start with both the partners having a very high libido. It is a lot of fun, excitement, and hotness as both feed off each other’s energies that stems from a new relationship. However, after a few months pass, that exciting play can now turn into a habitual play and decrease libido in either of the partners – or sometimes, both. In such a scenario, it is advisable that both people should communicate what their expectations and desires are, and how they can find a way to make it work. In the end, it is more about how both people find a way to make their relationship work.