7 Signs Your Relationship Has a Communication Problem
If you are having issues in your relationship, it could be that you and your partner aren’t communicating as well as you should be. When we’re talking about two humans with distinct personalities and emotions, there are bound to be disagreements and frustrations. But this doesn’t mean you can’t find ways to resolve them. The first step is to identify the major communication problems that are common in your relationship and then find ways to correct them. Here are 7 reasons why you and your significant other might not be seeing eye to eye.
This is perhaps the most obvious sign that the two of you have problems communicating. If either or both of you find yourselves cutting each other off mid-sentence when there is an argument, it sends a signal that the person’s opinions don’t matter. This in turn only exacerbates the problem. So next time you are having a disagreement, stop and listen to what they’re saying. By doing so, you will be able to see things from their point of view and avoid misunderstandings.
Being passive-aggressive involves expressing negative feelings towards a situation in a negative manner without actually coming and saying what’s wrong. This can include bitter sarcasm, sulking and insisting that nothing is wrong when there is clearly a problem. When there is a problem, don’t leave your partner trying to guess what’s going on. Instead, just come out and say it and work together to find a resolution.
If you have an anger management problem, it will make it really difficult for you and your significant other to communicate since he/she knows it will only lead to you shouting or otherwise acting confrontational. If you are unable to control yourself when you’re upset, it might be a sign that you need therapy to deal with your anger.
If you are somebody who is taking issue with every single thing that your partner is doing, or always complaining about how everything is unfair and you’re getting a raw deal, why would your girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse have any interest in correcting their behavior or offering you their support? If your partner does something that legitimately bothers you, help them by being part of the solution. Likewise, if you’re having a bad day and venting makes you feel better, that’s fine. But then you need to take a step back and ask yourself what are you going to do about it and what can you do to get your partner’s help?
When your partner expresses a genuine concern, especially when they are being mature and direct about it, simply ignoring it signifies that you don’t care how they feel. There might be times when you are legitimately busy and can’t necessarily deal with a problem at that moment, but it is important to set aside time to listen to them and do your part to discuss the issue and offer solutions.
We all get upset from time to time, but by swearing at your significant other, you are indicating that you don’t respect them and have no interest in actually dealing with the problem. You aren’t always going to get along. As the saying goes, you might love your partner, but it doesn’t mean you always have to like them. But using bad language will only inflame the situation.
One of the biggest reasons why relationships fail is because somebody makes a decision without involving their partner, such as buying a car the household can’t afford. Or they will be gone for a few hours but not tell their partner where they are, and then ignore their calls and texts. The last thing you want is for your significant other to no longer trust you. So always remain honest and open with them.
No relationship is perfect. We all make mistakes and from time to time we get into arguments that can even get somewhat heated. We might not like it, but avoiding your partner or responding with disproportionate anger is never the solution. Instead, it is important to learn how to communicate properly so that we live happily ever after!