10 Rules for Dating When You Struggle With Self-Worth

You might feel confident in your abilities. You make a great friend. Your employers love you. You’re a compassionate person who listens to others, offers your support, and really brings out the best in others. So how come all of these personality characteristics go out the window once you go on a date? It could be that you have selective self-esteem. You hold certain beliefs about yourself that are both wrong and counterproductive. For instance, instead of feeling like the attention you get from potential partners is a gift rather than something you deserve for being a great person.

What are the consequences of this? For one thing, it affects your approach to relationships. You develop a sense of neediness, which can really sabotage a budding romantic relationship. Then you begin to fear abandonment, and so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when he/she tells you it is over before it has really even begun. This in turn leads to deep despair. What is the cause of this problem? The truth is, it’s coming from within you. But the good news is you can fix this. It won’t be easy, but if you take these 10 rules to heart, it will make a huge difference in your romantic life.

I will only date people who want to be with me

You might find yourself in a situation where you’re on a date with somebody you are deeply attracted to. But perhaps the feeling isn’t mutual and so there is no future in this relationship. So what? You aren’t missing out since it wouldn’t be a match that makes either of you happy anyway!