9 Tips to Help You Start Dating Again After a Breakup (2 of 3)

Be Clear On What You Want

There’s no shame in having a relationship go sour, but it is kind of silly if you don’t learn anything from it. There’s a reason things didn’t work out, and something clearly wasn’t clicking the way it should have. If you’re trying to get back into dating, make sure you know what that thing is and be clear on what you want from the outset. Nobody wants to invest in something that’s going to crack over something that isn’t negotiable for you.

Ease Back Into It

Please don’t become the scary person we’ve all met at a certain point in our lives and instantly thought that the first date after their relationship would lead to their new relationship. It probably won’t. Your first few dates are going to be nothing more than easing back into it. At this point, you’ve probably forgotten how to date or flirt. It’s going to be awkward and probably not something that’s going to give you a whole lot of confidence. Just give yourself time and practice, and you’ll be back into it in no time.

Don’t Compare Them to Your Ex

This should go without saying, right? If you compare people to your ex, you’re just going to disappoint yourself and give off some pretty weird vibes to the person you’re trying to date. Just don’t do it. There’s no reason why you’d want the next person to be like your ex anyway, so there’s no use in comparing. No exceptions. Don’t even talk about your ex.