The 15 Worst Reasons to Delay a Breakup
We’ve all been there. You love someone, but you feel like a relationship isn’t working out anymore. Maybe the fire has gone out, maybe you’ve gotten too used to each other, or maybe there’s just someone else. Whatever the reasons for breaking up, the hardest part is usually determining the timing. When do we decide to break the heart of the person that had filled yours entirely over the last few years?
While there’s no real science to the how and when there is a science – called common sense – to recognizing some of the excuses people keep telling themselves to postpone the inevitable. If all you can think of to delay breaking up with your partner is in the list below, better rip off that band-aid as quick as you can.
It’s Not The “Right Time”
Well, it never is, really. As long as it’s not anyone’s birthday or your anniversary, there are very few times that are dead wrong, so don’t stress about it too much. People often do this because they don’t want to ruin a big moment for the other person, but you have to be honest to yourself and your soon-to-be ex-partner. Cut the cord.
Your Relationship “Looks” Good
Relationships are about how they feel, not how they look. If you’re unhappy, there’s no valid reason why you should stay in that relationship. There’s nothing as exhausting as trying to keep up appearances when you’re really not feeling it anymore. Messi and Ronaldo may look like a winning team too, but deep down most people realize they wouldn’t play well together anyway.
You Think They’re a Good Person
This is a normal way to react because it kind of makes sense that you’d think the person you love(d) is pure goodness, right? But you don’t need to look at the person, you need to look at the relationship you have with that person. The person can be Jesus risen again, and it still wouldn’t be an excuse to stay in a relationship that makes you sad.
You’re Worried You Won’t Find Anyone Better
Yeah, dating can be scary. You never know who’s out there, whether they’re right for you and if you’d even want to hook up with anyone in the first place. Everyone finds someone eventually and there’s no reason to fear that you’ll be alone. In fact, maybe being alone for a while after a relationship will do you good.
You Hope They’ll Change
People don’t change, not that much and not that quick at least. And if we’re being honest to ourselves here, it doesn’t really sound like a good idea to be with a person on the off-chance they’ll turn into less of that person in the future, does it? Wanting people to change is one of the clearest indicators life can give you that you don’t want to be with this person, period.