10 Questions To Consider Before Dating Someone Seriously (3 of 6)

4. Why didn’t my previous relationship last, and what are my expectations for my next relationship?

Why are you no longer with your previous partner? Perhaps one or both of you were too devoted to your careers. Or it could be the case that jealousy and a lack of trust got in the way. Jot down all the things that went wrong in previous relationships and determine how they can be properly handled the next time you take the plunge.

Are you looking to settle down with a new partner, or are you thinking about this as a “friends with benefits” sort of deal? The last thing you want to do is mess with another person’s heart. Be completely transparent with them and let them know how you see things proceeding.

5. Do this person’s morals align with mine?

It has often been said that if you want a relationship to last, you should develop common interests or engage in activities that you both enjoy, such as camping or joining a book club. But in truth, compatibility is more than just both of you happening to share the same interests in movies or music, you need to think about it more deeply.

How do they conduct themselves in their day-to-day lives? Are they responsible? Do they treat other people with respect? What is their worldview? What values do you imagine they would instill in their future children? Do these values conflict with whatever you would want to instill in your own children?