10 Signs That Reveal If You Are Stuck In A Toxic Relationship (2 of 4)
Your partner always plays the victim card
Have you started refraining from sharing your feelings with your spouse for the fear that they may blame themselves for it? Do they seem to make every petty thing about themselves? Oddesty K Langham, a licensed therapist, says that it’s almost impossible to maintain a healthy relationship when one of the partners always tries to become a victim and makes the other one be filled with guilt.
You dislike their friends
We don’t mean that you should be willing to date your partner’s friends. However, if you can’t stand being around them, it may be that you loathe a couple of qualities of your better half’s as well. As the popular saying goes ‘birds of a feather flock together,’ your partner isn’t going to be much different from their friends. Jocelyn Jackson Williams, a love coach, emphasizes the importance of good company. She notes that a person surrounded by ill-mannered people will bring the same toxicity to their relationship as well.
Your feelings are devalued
Understanding between the partners is the pillar that keeps their bond healthy and alive. You should feel free to openly discuss with your dear one anything and everything that’s causing you stress. It is only through such deep talks that you can make one another aware of the problems facing you and tackle them. If they disregard your feelings and do not bother to patiently listen to you, toxicity has crept into your love life.
Your stress and anxiety have reached new heights
Do you miss your younger years when life used to be easy? Even with everything going smoothly at the work front, you lack the cheerfulness you once had? Although life does get tough as we get older, it shouldn’t be so stressful that you have to push yourself each day.
Having said this, the people we surround ourselves with can hugely impact our mood. If your partner isn’t supportive or is always complaining, your stress levels will spike. The same is going to affect your health and relationship, explains Langham.