20 Biggest Signs That You Are Just Not In Love With Them Anymore (4 of 4)

Thoughts about your former love consume your mind

Recently your ex is the only thing you think about while being with your present partner, you compare your partner with your ex, or you are just waiting for a chance to be back together with your ex; then, as Moir states, three must be something wrong.

You are just not getting the butterflies anymore

It is not logical or possible to feel the butterflies all the time, but what it means is that you just don’t get excited by hearing their name anymore, or you don’t get turned on hearing them or even feeling them.

While it does not mean that you don’t love them, it is just that you are in love with them no more, points out Susan Golicic, a Ph.D. holder and a verified relationship coach.

Sometimes, it is just a phase, but sometimes it is a sign for the end that is to come. Golicic says it is impossible to make a relationship work when you don’t even crave the person anymore.

You don’t want to spend any time with them

Do you no longer want to hang out with them? Before, you used to make time for even doing little things together just so you will get to spend some time with them, but now the notion of even going out with them feels like a tiring task?

Heidi McBain, MA, LMFT, a certified family and marriage therapist says that it is usually not a good sign when that happens. The core of every firm and healthy relationship is that a couple loves to spend their time with each other, even if they are busy. If you cannot even stand the idea of going out with your partner, you must take time to look at your relationship and see where it is going wrong.

Even with them around, you feel deserted

Even while they are around, you feel you are alone. If that happens, then it is because there is no longer a connection between you and your partner, Lacarma Minter, LMFT, a licensed therapist of family and marriage points out. Lack of connection originates from a lack of desire to connect.

They are like a friend to you now

It is okay to consider your partner your best friend, but if you view them as a loving friend of yours and not someone desirable, then there must be a problem, explained Dr. Jill Murray, an author, and licensed psychotherapist.

Indeed, some couples are just happy with happy and loving companionship. If your mind is straying and thinking about someone else, there must be a severe problem.

These are the things you will not do if your partner still interests you. If you feel you are doing these things, but you still want to have your relationship then, go on fun dates, try to communicate, and just try a little more. Maybe it is just a phase, or perhaps you genuinely need to let go.