Telltale signs that tell you it is time to break up (for your own good)! (4 of 4)

You spend most of your time together engaged in fights

End it if:

You feel that their attacks are mean and toxic and hurt you. If you have to be careful in order to keep them from engaging in a fight at every chance or if you feel that they are unduly harsh and critical of you, this is a wake-up call for you to leave this relationship. You should feel respected and valued and not as an object worthy of contempt or derision.

Dating counselors say that if your partner becomes defensive after any argument, then that is also a warning sign.

Work on it if:

The two of you may have your ups and downs, but you also have mutual respect for each other. Relationship experts strongly believe that you must assess how you two behave during a fight – do you attack each other viciously or return to the normal civilized conversation? Do you behave rationally after the argument? You need to figure out if your fights are actually nurturing your relationship and making you both tougher or just tearing you two apart.

It is possible that you two might just have disagreements, but the implicit respect in the relationship is unaffected. And that is how a healthy relationship should be.

Another factor to watch out for is if you fight due to an external factor or some personal stressor. If it is an external stressor like a stressful time at work then you can safely say that this is a temporary glitch. But whatever it is, you both need to be ready to talk it out and save the relationship.

You wish that they would improve their habits

End it if:

You want your boyfriend or girlfriend to make a dramatic change in their behaviour.

Changing a value system or innate qualities (like asking Tony Stark to not be sarcastic) need superhuman dedication and commitment. So you need to make a decision on whether you would be able to stay together even if they stuck to their ways. We all get used to the snoring. Eventually.

Work on it if:

If the shift you want them to make is not intrinsic, but dependent on external situations, you need to assess whether an external factor can make things happen your way.

For instance, if you want him or her to work in your city then you need to see if there is a realistic chance of them moving their job.

If they place great importance on their career success to meet their life goals, they might just be well worth the wait. A partner may seem stable and dependable, but you are justified if you feel frustrated. If you are done waiting for them to feel like they have settled down or made it big, you should let your thoughts be known and prioritize yourself.

In the end, it can be safe to say that communication holds the key to your relationship. If you have any doubts then you must convey them to your partner and discuss how to go through it.

Stay strong and don’t lose hope in love – we all need it right now!