Telltale signs that tell you it is time to break up (for your own good)!
Relationships can produce the most beautiful feeling in the world, but sometimes they just get downright messy and complicated. Now that you are here, it means you have some doubts about your relationship, and let’s be honest – don’t we all?
In this article, we help you figure out whether it is time to end your relationship or if you just need to work through it. This article has inputs from experts and they have given their advice on how to find out where your relationship stands. It is important to remember that you and your partner are unique individuals and no two relationships are the same and while this article can give you advice on how to work it out, it is in no way the final deciding authority.
At the end of the day, you and your partner need to figure out exactly how you wish to proceed. Implementing the advice provided in this article in your life will help you make a clear judgment and make the decision that will work for you. Remember how you feel is legitimate and even if you take a call on breaking up, you will be fine in the end. Even if you break up, you will be able to learn more about yourself and grow.
Now, let’s get into the main points of this all:
Any mention of a future together makes you freak out
End it if:
When you picture your future, your partner is nowhere in it. Look, we totally get it if you are someone who goes with the flow, but not being able to visualize any tomorrow with your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t a good indicator.
Staying with a person with whom you see no future not only hinders them from planning their own future, but can also be detrimental for you in the long run. Experts suggest that this dilemma can be solved by asking yourself what position you see yourself a year from now and whether your partner is a suitable fit in that vision.
Work on it if:
Your future is completely hazy and you don’t know where you see yourself the next day let alone the next year. And seriously – not everyone has their life mapped out (hell, who does?) – there is no problem with being in the process of figuring out your life, you just need to work on it continuously. But, in the process of this, ensure that that doesn’t become an impediment to the growth of your relationship.
You should try to assess your knowledge of yourself and determine a course of action for the path ahead. Upon gaining this insight, you can chart your course and see if he or she is compatible with it or whether you do or don’t want them as your partner on the journey ahead.
You do not feel like you are significant to them
End it if:
You feel like you are not of value in the relationship and that your thoughts and feelings have no significance. We get that in these challenging times, being busy with work and your career is natural, but your partner should be able to chalk out time to spend with you. If you feel like they are always busy and that there is a breakdown in communication between you two in spite of putting in lots of efforts to make a conversation on the issues in your relationship by you, you need to face the reality that the relationship does not mean as much to them as it does to you. All relationship experts agree that if your partner is unable to understand where you are coming from then it is fair to say that your views on the relationship won’t converge in the future either.
Work on it if:
They try to understand what you want and they pay attention to you. If they are trying to undergo counseling or indulging in activities that promote self-actualization and reading books on making relationships work, or just trying to talk it out with you, you can see that they value you and the relationship is fine enough to try to work for it.
You enjoy thoughts of sex with people other than your partner
End it if:
It is normal for the human brain to find people other than the person you are dating attractive. It is just how we are wired and, frankly, evolution is to blame for the vagaries of the human mind! Everyone agrees that even couples who are in loving relationships find themselves thinking about other people and that is a normal human trait.
But if your sex fantasies go beyond sex and you start romanticizing about a happily ever after with a different person or if you feel like having sex with anyone else, but still do not want to do it with your partner, it is time for you to break up.
Work on it if:
You both just need to sit down and have a talk – a proper talk about your sex dynamics. Fantasies usually arise when your brain is bored and wants you to move on and add some spice to your relationship.
But it’s not a sign that something is wrong with you or your partner – even those in long-term relationships may find themselves in this ‘sex rut’ eventually. All you gotta do is take the sex up a notch and just try something new in your bedroom life. A healthy amount of flirting or sending a risky sext can also be a great way to help you through.