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It is a proven fact that when we are not happy, satisfied, or comfortable with our body, it visibly stiffens us up, you might have experienced and noticed it yourself. But how do we know why it happens and what do we do to counter it? Jen Mayo, health coach, says it is totally up to our biochemical composition and the nervous system. When you are stressed and worried about your body and the way it looks, your nervous system jumps to the scene. Let’s say you start wondering if your partner noticed the cellulite on your thigh or how there’s a visible chubbiness to your body, the target of your nervous shifts from endorphins and other happy hormones to the nervous ones, hence resulting in tightening up of the body.
Mayo also brings to light how this psychology of body image is affected and associated with societal contributions and expectations. She points out that no matter how sexually comfortable people seem to be, they are still not in complete sync with their bodies, and are dissociated with themselves. It is a given, that to achieve greater sexual pleasure and to have good sex, it is vital to be completely present in the moment and with yourself. Anxiety and stress can lead your mind elsewhere, not allowing you to be wholly present in the moment, which can act as a big hurdle.
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People who are more comfortable with their bodies experience greater sexual pleasure as they are not busy stressing over what they look like, how they perform, what they do, and are instead focusing on living in the moment and paying attention to their surroundings.
When you remove the factor of stress from the equation, you’ll realize that you’re able to achieve better pleasure and satisfaction.
It is inevitable to lose interest when you are constantly focused on your partner’s view of your insecurity over your body. While you maintain your focus on how you look, you restrict yourself from enjoying the moment. As it is with any activity, you are unable to focus while stressed or anxious. Try and work on your relationship with yourself, and we are sure that things will work out for you in the bedroom as well.
