17 Signs That Show That A Marriage Isn’t Going To Work, According To Wedding Planners (2 of 4)

They are rude towards the wedding staff in general

Another common sign that the marriage isn’t going to work well is how the couple treats the wedding staff. If they aren’t kind to the wedding staff who are working tirelessly to make their wedding the most beautiful day of their life, chances are they are going to treat their marriage the same way. A Reddit user shared one such occasion where the couple had zero respect for him and his colleagues. They not only “expect more every time”, despite everything being almost perfect, but they also went crazy on the wedding staff later in the night. The wedding planner further adds that the wedding staff gave their marriage six months at best; the couple separated after just four!

The couples’ focus is more on drinking than the actual wedding itself

Obviously, you are expected to have a good time at your wedding – after all, it is your wedding! However, if either of the two ends up drinking way more than they normally should, it is a clear sign that the marriage is expected to be in the doldrums. According to wedding planner Kristina Savina, if you find your partner throwing up even before the ceremony is barely over, you should seriously ask yourself “why?”

They end up spending so much that they end up in debt

While you certainly should spend a whole lot of money on your wedding, you should only do it as long as you can afford it. Just to have that high-end, perfect wedding, you shouldn’t push yourself into debt. At least it isn’t a wise choice as far as the success of your future is concerned.

Wedding planner Emily Reno agrees with this point and adds that splurging way beyond one’s means for just your wedding isn’t the right thing to do, as your married life hasn’t even begun yet. Starting a marriage with a truckload of debt isn’t an ideal way to start a marriage. In fact, it is the perfect recipe for a disaster, she notes.

Either party is way too nervous on the wedding day

A wedding is a serious thing, and it is quite normal for couples to get nervous just before the wedding. However, way too much nervousness oozing out from either party is definitely not a good sign, according to wedding planners. A lot of nervous signs are a clear signal that the person is worried about something. If you’re drinking bottles of water to calm down panic attacks so that you could at least walk, it is perhaps your gut saying that you shouldn’t be doing this. And this, certainly, isn’t a good sign for the couple.

The couple isn’t interested in the paperwork

We agree that weddings don’t have to be all about paperwork. However, there are certain things that need to be followed, in order to make the marriage an “official” one. So if the couple seems disinterested in carrying out the event of the most basic paperwork, the pair might not be meant for each other. Most marriage licenses are only available for a certain time period before they expire. For instance, New York’s marriage license is only good for sixty days post the date of the issue. So, being ready with paperwork and filing it on time makes sure that you don’t have to go through the same process all over again.

One Reddit user, who is a wedding planner and an officiant, shared a very interesting story. She shares that once she forgot to ask for signatures for a couple’s marriage license, so she requested the bride, who said she doesn’t need it as they haven’t gotten their license yet and that she and her husband will do it in a legal way another day. Our wedding planner found out a few months later that the woman was now with her husband’s best friend, and now they are engaged! So, a couple dilly-dallying on signing the paperwork is a good sign that the marriage isn’t really going to last long.